A lot of people who have been through traumatic childhoods that I’ve been blessed to support in their healing and transformation come to me with what I call “Chameleon Syndrome”.
They become whatever others need them to become (often to the detriment of themselves).
Some common ways this may look:
“What would you like to eat?”
🦎”Whatever you want!”
“How would you like to spend today?”
🦎”Whatever you’re doing is fine!”
“What would you like to do with your career or finances?”
🦎”What do you think I should do?”
“What’s your favorite style of clothing?”
🦎”This IG ‘influencer’ says this style….”
And so on…. but usually it’s to way more extreme circumstances.
Often those who experience Chameleon Syndrome have a weak sense of self having shut down their own needs and desires, and have become complacent and compliant, and unfortunately usually have become accustomed to silently suffering. Many have accepted that this is how life is meant to be.
They’ve shut down themselves because somewhere along the lines they were taught that they are wrong or bad, insignificant or unimportant, or need to blend into the environment and “go with the flow” to be “safe” and unnoticed or as to not upset another. As a survival technique they learned to “make others happy” by sacrificing themselves in a way that has continued the cycle of suffering.
People who chameleon often identify as overwhelmed or fearful, shut down and just trying to get through another day, feeling they’re on a stationary bike – lots of exertion of energy but not getting anywhere, trying to “earn love”, living someone else’s dream, and so on.
In the work I do we kick the imposter chameleon to the curb, heal and transform the underlining core issues, eradicate the suffering patterns, and get to joy centered inspired living.
Chameleon Syndrome is just a defense mechanism (that usually is formed very young), but unfortunately it’s one that keeps it’s host imprisoned and even though they are alive, they are barely living. This self hostage type living doesn’t get better until inner transformation happens.
The work I do is very different than most mainstream modalities, it targets building the new inner resources necessary to walk free instead of just trying to neutralize or manage old pain.
If you identify with this, get free! Reach out for a consultation via link below. I’m so excited to help you!
You are loved.
Leading results based Celebrity Life Coach, Ashley specializes in emotional freedom, inner healing, unconscious and conscious mind transformation, and the internal resources necessary for success. There are solutions to suffering! . Ashley is known for helping her clients have radical lasting transformations and move into a state of thriving, joy centered living, and success. .