A lot of people who have been through traumatic childhoods that Iâve been blessed to support in their healing and transformation come to me with what I call âChameleon Syndromeâ.
They become whatever others need them to become (often to the detriment of themselves).
Some common ways this may look:
âWhat would you like to eat?â
?âWhatever you want!â
âHow would you like to spend today?â
?âWhatever youâre doing is fine!â
âWhat would you like to do with your career or finances?â
?âWhat do you think I should do?â
âWhatâs your favorite style of clothing?â
?âThis IG âinfluencerâ says this styleâŚ.â
And so onâŚ. but usually itâs to way more extreme circumstances.
Often those who experience Chameleon Syndrome have a weak sense of self having shut down their own needs and desires, and have become complacent and compliant, and unfortunately usually have become accustomed to silently suffering. Many have accepted that this is how life is meant to be.
Theyâve shut down themselves because somewhere along the lines they were taught that they are wrong or bad, insignificant or unimportant, or need to blend into the environment and âgo with the flowâ to be âsafeâ and unnoticed or as to not upset another. As a survival technique they learned to âmake others happyâ by sacrificing themselves in a way that has continued the cycle of suffering.
People who chameleon often identify as overwhelmed or fearful, shut down and just trying to get through another day, feeling theyâre on a stationary bike – lots of exertion of energy but not getting anywhere, trying to âearn loveâ, living someone elseâs dream, and so on.
In the work I do we kick the imposter chameleon to the curb, heal and transform the underlining core issues, eradicate the suffering patterns, and get to joy centered inspired living.
Chameleon Syndrome is just a defense mechanism (that usually is formed very young), but unfortunately itâs one that keeps itâs host imprisoned and even though they are alive, they are barely living. This self hostage type living doesnât get better until inner transformation happens.
The work I do is very different than most mainstream modalities, it targets building the new inner resources necessary to walk free instead of just trying to neutralize or manage old pain.
If you identify with this, get free! Reach out for a consultation via link below. Iâm so excited to help you!
You are loved.