I remember telling a teacher of mine way back when my “dream schedule” with complete conviction of it happening.
I had told her I wanted to see clients a few days per week, half days and have the rest of the time to pursue my own growth and learning, time to play and explore life, time for horses, and so on. I’ll never forget the horrid face that greeted my dream declaration.
Then came a lecture about how it would take a minimum of 4 years to build my practice big enough to allow that, I would need another job during that time, to earn a full time living I’d never be able to have a schedule like that, and so on. Reason after reason of why living my dream life was completely impractical.
Luckily my stubborn nature actually served me in this situation, I remember first being slightly discouraged and then thinking to myself…. “watch me!”
“Watch me!” had become my inner declaration throughout my life. So many things I was told I couldn’t do in life from a youngen and I’d say “watch me!” and sure enough…. someone would end up watching me do it! This was no different!
Within about a few months from this conversation I had a full client list, I worked 4 days or so a week, half days, and the rest of the time was for me to learn and grow, and experience life. After the first few months or so, I left a part time job and was in private practice ever since. Fast forward several years till I really felt the timing was right to have horses again, and here I am, with two beautiful warmbloods!
I still see clients about 4 days per week, half days. Sometimes I teach outside of those times or work on other projects that I’m enjoying. But most of that time I’m learning and growing (I geek out on everything personal development and God!), spending with my horses, spending with loved ones, serving and giving back, and so on.
I didn’t want to work to pay bills and then die. I really wanted to LIVE! And so balance became a top priority.
No hard feelings to the teacher who had told me I was essentially bonkers for believing this could be my life (which I now live!!), it only was her limiting beliefs that created a lens of scarcity and lack that she was seeing life through and hence putting on me. I am constantly making sure I’m seeing life through unlimited possibilities, instead of lack. This is a daily discipline.
There’s been people who have called me “lucky”, it isn’t luck. I actually don’t believe in luck. Blessed? Yes, very blessed and very grateful. But again not from wishful thinking and waiting for it to fall into my lap magically while sucking on a silver spoon.
Instead I took full responsibility for my part of this life, my thoughts, feelings, and actions and really using my knowledge of how to re-pattern the conscious and unconscious minds to get out of suffering and struggle loops and instead getting my mind running congruently with my dreams.
I partnered with God in my pursuits, knowing that ultimately I want His will to be done, but believing that many of the longings of my heart were actually put there by Him. Also knowing that as I worked towards something and believed for something, if it was His will it’d be given to me, but if not, He’d lead me to something even better. So I had nothing to lose!
Whenever I’ve allowed my mind to be undisciplined, to do what it wants, it hasn’t been pretty. Lots of unnecessary suffering, life pattern loops (feeling stuck in life), and so on. Let me tell you, I’ve tested this theory!!
Whenever I’ve taken full responsibility for what is in my control while partnering with God, it’s always served me (and hence allowed me to serve others in even bigger ways).
There’s plenty of times I’ve apologized for my stubborn nature, but there have been so many more times I’ve thanked God for it. It’s the stubbornness that always kept me believing in good things unseen and the whisperings of my heart.
And the best part is I get to help others do the same. I’ve watched God move mountains in peoples lives when they started taking responsibility for what was in their free will (their internal world).
A mind undirected is a dangerous thing and can quickly become an enemy (hello emotional suffering, toxic life patterns, and lack/limitation!)
A mind directed in alignment with goodness, is miraculous.
I’ve worked with many people that I know literally nothing about their businesses, and yet worked on their mind alone and witnessed incredible successes and growth! Pretty amazing! From solopreneurs just starting out, to top execs of big corporations and everything in between.
We are meant to hold thoughts captive and be directive in our minds. I wish more people understood how to do this… there’d be a lot more joy in this world!
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Leading results based Psychoneurologist and Celebrity Life Coach, Ashley specializes in emotional health and wellness, unconscious and conscious mind transformation, and the internal resources necessary for success and of course, how to create a life you're excited to wake up for.. Ashley is known for helping her clients have radical lasting transformations and move into a state of abundance, thriving, and joy centered living.